• Stories are intended to be used as part of a preventative or reflective conversation; leading up to a situation that is known/likely to be challenging, or after a challenging situation has presented itself, respectively.

• Stories should never be used as/approached in a way that the child perceives as a negative consequence or punishment, or in a way that causes the child to feel shame around their behaviour or feelings. 

• Never use stories with a child who has become emotionally dysregulated or immediately after a meltdown.

• Always leave enough time between the occurrence of a challenging situation/meltdown and using a story for reflection, ensuring the child is calm and willing to engage. 

• Never force a child to engage with a story - everyone is different, some children will find the stories enjoyable whereas others may not. Some children may even completely refuse to look at/be told about a story! Particularly for children with a PDA profile, a different approach may be needed to encourage engagement. One suggestion would be to print or download a story and let them know what it's about and where they can find it. Mention that it would be nice to read it with them if they would like, and let them take the lead on when to use a story and how much involvement you both have. Some children may just want to look at the pictures and ask their own questions or not talk at all. It's crucial the child is allowed to engage with the stories in their own way.

• Never put pressure on a child to answer the questions in the stories. The questions are there to prompt discussion if the child is willing and able. As with the point above, it is important that the child feels free to engage in their own way.

• Leave your agenda behind and be mindful of your own expectations. When we approach a difficult situation with a specific agenda or expectations of a desired outcome, we create pressure which is felt by the child and this can become counterproductive, leading to impatience, frustration and disappointment all round. These stories are a free resource that I hope will lead to increased understanding for children AND parents/caregivers about social situations, improve social outcomes and ultimately contribute positively to children's wellbeing. However, the stories and strategies I am suggesting are very much based on my own experience and I appreciate they won't work for everyone, so please keep this in mind.

• If in doubt, reach out! It is my goal to make stories accessible, to reach and help as many people as possible. If you have any questions, concerns, feedback or story suggestions, please get in touch - thank you.

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Miche x